So many times in Montessori - or ANY homeschool program or experience - we feel like failures.
As intentionally homeschooling parents we tend to doubt ourselves even more than other parents - are we making the right decisions? Am I doing this right? Is this really what is right for my child?
What is very true about Montessori is that it is intended for ALL children - the universal child. The key principles of observation and key-based response leads to a personalized experience for each child - that recognizes both the universal forces within the child as well as their individual uniqueness.
But when Montessori doesn't work for OUR child, we doubt. Either it is ourselves or it is the method. Or maybe Montessori doesn't actually work for every child.
Well.... What Montessori means to some people might not work for every child, but the CORE of what Montessori actually IS does indeed work for all children.
Some keys to keep in mind with authentic Montessori:
- Montessori works on a 3-fold foundation: prepared adult, prepared child, prepared environment. Of the three, the prepared adult is the most difficult.
- While it is not "about" the materials, the authentic Montessori
materials are the response to the observation that children need
particular keys to help them organize their world and master concepts.
These keys have been thoughtfully developed and prepared to meet
particular needs - and each material has a DEPTH that not all albums,
trainers, or bloggers provide.
- What Montessori really about is living real life - and providing the keys when needed. Living life with respect for one another, honoring the presence of each person in one's life as well as those who came before us and those who will come after us.
It is when we worry that our child is not working with the materials, we doubt. So let's consider why the child isn't connecting with the materials?
- it may be in our personal approach
- it may be in the reality that our children need something else in that particular moment
- It may be the fact that our children learn through observation (we can learn through observation too!)
- It may also be a lack of understanding the school versus the home setting.
Montessori is not about the materials but about living life. We use the
materials to provide keys-based experiences, but the children in a
school do NOT spend their entire 3-hour work cycle touching the
materials. They have bathroom breaks, stories, conversations, watering
plants, caring for animals, perhaps some gardening, snack time, walking
on the line.
Questions to ask ourselves:
- Do you have a continuous non-circular line for walking?
- Are you doing the activities that don't utilize materials (silence game, in primary (ages 3-6) the entire first chapter of the language album (Spoken Language activities are actually QUITE extensive))
- Are we
presenting the keys, then letting the child have time to explore and
discover extensions and games and the like before we introduce them
ourselves - in other words, are we pacing enough to keep presenting new
things (daily in the beginning - but again, not everything with
materials) while allowing personal discovery?
- How much time have we spent JUST observing?
- Do we have a good guide for WHAT to be observing?
Practical things to DO in Montessori:
- Observe your child. Note interests, attention span, actual needs (some of which are unexpressed).
- Have real conversations and experiences that bring the child into
life in the real world. Social situations, gardening, caring for
animals, practical life of cooking and cleaning.
- Hold your child responsible for cleaning up after himself - yes
this can be with your help; the focus here is on setting that good habit
of "the work is not done until is put away and/or ready for the next