- Montessori focuses on a prepared environment, a prepared child and a prepared adult - this post is focuses on the prepared environment and the prepared child.
- Montessori prepares children for social situations, culture and life through Grace and Courtesy lessons. In a sense, this was a week-long grace & courtesy lesson.
Pictures haven't been taken. I'll tried to add a photo from Tuesday if I can find it (he hid it from me ;) ).
This week, Legoboy has been attending school. The primary purpose is for him to have a shared experience of "school" - an understanding of the life of other children living with us.
Most of his friends and all of his school-age cousins attend school - and he sees both the benefits and drawbacks from that perspective. He appreciates the benefits of homeschooling and doesn't want to change that.
But that perspective is very different from LIVING it. Given a week isn't entirely living the lifestyle either - it is a small taste.
We're not looking to change this part of his life, just expand horizons. There are enough changes on the horizon as it is!
Past school experiences include but are not limited to the following:
- Montessori school - including before/after care - 10 hours/day, 5 days/week. One full school year
- Variety of summer camps - some all fun - some a mix of "school" and fun.
- Montessori school 3 days/week for half a year
- Various Montessori schools for a day, a week, a month at a time while I subbed.
- Non-Montessori preschool that is normally 3 half-days - he attended "full days" or two classes each day but we ate lunch together
- He has never attended a school where he had to sit in a desk, though he has had some experiences of being limited in movement and work choices.
- He attends 2 classes a week (one afternoon a week) at the local public middle school - but still no desks ;)
It is a shared experience to gain a new deeper perspective on another valid lifestyle choice. Plain and simple.
Reality-check: take a bath!? I have to wear socks tomorrow? and put on a clean shirt!? Wait, what!? And if I don't get the bath in on time, I miss Once Upon A Time.
Yep. Get moving.
In the end, he missed Once Upon A Time; had a hard time getting to sleep; and didn't want to share evening blessings.
I forgot to get a picture!!!!
I take that back: I routinely wake up this early or earlier. But I don't *have* to do anything at a particular time at this hour. So I can get little things done, prepare for the day, morning private prayer, clear out e-mails or Facebook, get started on another stage of a particular Garden of Francis order, just sit on the back porch to watch the sunrise and the horses.... or otherwise mentally prepare for the day. For ME I need a lot of mental preparation - I don't do well just jumping and going and thinking on the fly.
He and I also enjoy our quiet evenings together - snuggling while reading, watching our few tv shows, or I am working and he is leaning against me reading or playing a game. We enjoy going to bed when our bodies are ready, not according to a clock. It IS hard to for both of us to fall asleep on a clock. I remember lying in bed wide awake until at least well past 11pm every night, when my bedtime was 8 or 8:30. It did not matter how tired I had been that morning, how much I had dragged through the day, didn't get a nap or anything - by evening I was *awake*. They say you can train yourself out of that.
Um, I spent 13 years attending public school, with early mornings the entire time through. I NEVER got used to it; I never adjusted. Actually did a bit better in high school, because I could stay up later; I still dragged through my days but I had been doing that anyway when going to bed at 8pm, so I at least got a few more productive hours in!
No - I much prefer a lifestyle that respects the fluctuating needs of our bodies, therefore our souls. I was always moody in school - well? Wonder why ;)
It IS so nice to have a few quiet minutes, that slip into a few quiet hours..... ;) hehe
He got a ride home we had an afternoon snack together. This is nice. Until this session at the YMCA, he has been in a strengthening and conditioning class at 3:30, so that could have meant a pick-up from school with snack in the car while driving to the Y. He lucked out in the timing of dropping the S&C class the week he is at school. Told me about his day; I had to ask some guided questions at times.
Lunch was good, he wasn't sure when to pay for it, lots of upstairs/downstairs, the music teacher didn't seem to know he was there but he did hear her yell for the first time ever (we are friends with her), didn't play outside since it was raining, and he doesn't remember doing any math (for the record, I didn't ask him about math! He just said that.). Oh, and he forgot to give G's monster truck back that was left at our house on Saturday (G being the younger sibling in the family that is driving him to school this week).
His comment as his ride came (a few minutes late and we discussed the reality that NO, he couldn't use that extra time to work on the craft kit because he didn't know when he would have to put it away, then it would be left out for the day and when we have foster kids there are no promises it will still be waiting for him when he gets home!) ---- "No wonder boys get diagnosed with ADD and ADHD when they go to school. There is no time for a kid actually FOCUS on anything!" He said it tongue-in-cheek, but I see it as one of those deep insights he has from time to time.
My assistant came for the day, so I had no excuse: work. ;)
Came home with a stack of papers. Some done yesterday, most done today - graded and sent home. Academically, everything is lower than I thought he class was working at, but then I remember: this isn't Montessori with the hands-on manipulations at the younger ages. Math isn't just too bad, but the reading comprehension is SO - DULL. The answers he gave were accurate as far as I am concerned, but weren't what was being looked for. But then one thing he answered "whatever" (not the correct answer) and she wrote "ok" next to it and he got 100 on that paper. Huh!?
Side-note: the school is influenced by Common Core despite our state not embracing it. I won't open that can of worms right now.
He chose to forget how to do long division notation, but he did write a short story about how to leave school. It ends with throwing a party ;)
His SPD (over-hearing and trouble sorting what is important to listen to) showed through on some of the work - he didn't start some assessments they were doing (practice standardized tests) and he waited patiently to begin even though the teacher already said to begin; so he didn't "begin" until the warning time. Given the shortened length of time, he did pretty well!
NOTE: I did not report the SPD to the teacher or the principal. Another teacher knows, as well as some of the "specials" teachers, but they probably didn't think to say anything. I am fine with that. This is reality - we can't get through life on free passes just because we have a label. When things need to be addressed, they will be.
He did get nixed for not capitalizing. He hates capitalizing. He knows WHEN to do it, just doesn't care to do so. I appreciate someone else harping on it for once ;)
We ended up spending the evening at home. His ride to TKD wasn't able to make it; the back-up couldn't do it; and I wasn't going anywhere myself. So he had a nice quiet evening snuggling, reading and helping me pack two GoF orders.
When asked, later in the evening, his thoughts so far on the week, he said, "Sitting in a desk hurts!" We discussed the fact that at home he could sit at the computer or sit on the couch (or perched on top of his punching/kicking stand) for hours and be ok - the difference though is that he is doing what is fulfilling to him at that moment, getting all of his responsibilities fulfilled while having lots of time to go deep at the moments that work for his mental and physical readiness. AND those things are soft, not hard. ;)
"But if you had to attend school routinely, what do you think?"
Legoboy: "Let's not go there."
At least share with me some of the benefits - some of the perks:
"Lunch is nice. Can I help pack up this order when the polyurethane is done drying?"
I didn't get out of bed until he was ready to leave. I stayed up way too late. Clearly my own life will change with foster children here, even if Legoboy still continues homeschooling and if we don't have school-agers - children will be up in the middle of the night, wake at different hours. But I am trying to get through some major projects, now, while I can.
So we missed out on our time together.
Today is normally our crazy-busy day, so it is was nice to stay home and relax a bit longer than usual (relax! ha! note all those major projects I mentioned - then a friend needed to borrow our keyboard for a funeral service...)
However, he came in the door and shouted "HUG!" I called out "painting!" to let him know where I was, and we proceeded to play Marco Polo with "hug" and "painting" until we were fully wrapped around each other. Yeah... that was nice!
We had some downtime (no classes at the middle school today, no strengthening/conditioning) before taekwondo, so we just sat next to each other worked on the computer. We both needed quiet down-time, no talking.
We talked in the car though!
Now I am sitting outside of taekwondo typing this up, thinking "Dur! I forgot to plan for dinner AGAIN!" Yes, I have menus set up (not finished) for when we have more children, but this micromanaging planning for just the two of us? it's for the birds.
I'm hungry. He's probably hungry (although he did eat 4 hotdogs (leftover from his birthday party this past weekend) while snuggling in front of the computer....).
One thing I remember from our other forays into full-time school: home studies and projects just don't happen when you live by someone else's schedule. It has to be scheduled with other people for it to happen. We all need downtime and take it when we can! I actually did have a few things I was hoping to do with him this week - here it is Wednesday and nothing has been touched, piano hasn't been practiced, and, well, I'll stop complaining.... ;)
He had set the alarm an hour early so he could watch The Force Awakens that he had started the night before. I stayed in bed. Seriously. By the time I got up, he had gotten himself breakfast and had texted with a friend at school about their recess plans (the same kid he texts with to make plans outside of school, so this is a neutral to the "yes/no" school debate that others are trying to wage ;) ).
He rushed out the door carrying individual items, not in a backpack, though he had the backpack too. Turns out he dropped his phone in the front yard. I found it a bit after 5pm in the evening.
By the time he got home, we had a quick snack of all-fruit popsicles, chocolate bar, and cheese slices (yeah, I know - weird combination) and it was time to head out to atrium. Except we didn't know who the transportation would be since he couldn't find his phone.
He also told me that the internet stuff was fine because I was online while watching the travel channel. We had internet, cable and phone installed last week and we quickly discovered that whenever we turned the cable box on, our wireless would go to limited --- but ethernet wasn't working at all ("limited" as well). AND the guys didn't tell me phone number!
So what Legoboy wasn't aware of is that I had been on the phone yesterday setting up an appointment for them to come fix things - and that we had set a time for this morning! So they have been and gone today, installed a fiber-optic cable from across the street to our property, fixed everything, re-ran the wires and gave us an outside router with an indoor basement battery thing (I don't get it all). Exciting stuff. And he missed it. He just looked at me. Then ran out the door because his ride was here.
He is now off to atrium. We'll see what he says when he gets back - hanging out with some friends afterward too.
He had gym today and was looking forward to it. They played wiffle ball and some relay back/forth running. He just gave me a look while describing it. It seems he wasn't too impressed. Given it was one opportunity out of 36 gym classes through the year (once a week for each of the 36 weeks in a school year). He calculated that math himself as well as the length of time and figured out he spends more time in TKD in one month than they do in gym class for the entire year; and his participation in other physical activities. I reminded him that many of the students ALSO participate in outside-of-school activities in addition to the school. He then made some phone calls and placed some texts - his own informal survey.
He decided that my argument didn't hold enough water ;)
Of course we also had this conversation after I was half hour late picking him up. My ONE time to transport him and he had to text me 5 times to get my attention! Oops!
So our primary goal and all of the top ten and then some reasons for this experience relate to a common experience - understanding the school life of any school-age foster children we have in the future. True understanding, if somewhat limited (a week, not a year, not two years --- but not a day either!).
Mission accomplished. Legoboy had some interesting insights through the week: ADHD diagnoses, running late, waiting for others, being in a basically all-new place with new rules and Mama's hand out of the whole mix, and more.
In other areas - we did have a few people *really* excited that he was doing that, that it would be SO good for him in gaining social skills, make him appreciate school and want to attend full-time, etc.
While I am *open* to the possibility, reality is - homeschool is best for *our* family and *our* particular needs. I don't need to list here all (or ANY!) of the reasons.
I appreciate that good schools are available if and when they are needed or will better meet the needs of my family.
However, I saw significant reduction in attention span, despite his 12 years of background in long attention span. The pattern indicated that he will probably pick back up just fine, but any more time in school could do some serious damage. I am very much not cool with that.
He asked around about typical homework load at this particular school. Not as much as the local public school BUT added on to school time? He can still cover all of the academics in less than 1/3 of the total school/homework time-block and have time to interact with people of all ages, all levels of society, various professionals and employments - and spending time in nature on top of all those noted hours in TKD, strengthening & conditioning, swimming, boys club and more.
From all reports received he got along well enough with everyone; kept himself busy during the times the other students were practicing for their upcoming standardized test; asked questions at the appropriate time; waited in line when appropriate; you know - all those "socialization" skills that homeschoolers don't know about ;) (tongue-in-cheek! obviously he knows these things!). He was patient with the younger ones; joked a bit more (than his classmates) with the older kids - but that is balanced with behavior and special needs of other students who have their own mix of social skills and personalities.
In other words, he didn't stand out ;)
Regarding attending full-time:
I asked him, "Do you want to sign up full-time starting next week or next year?" His response: "I am good homeschooling through high school; I liked lunch though - you should make better lunches!"
Legoboy: "And I didn't get enough hugs through the week. We'll have to spend the weekend making it up for it. Just not enough hugs."